When you walk out your door don't think that you are leaving your children with someone that isn't worried about your children. They may not worry as much as you do but, believe me, babysitters and nannies worry constantly about your children. Some of the biggest frustrations that caregivers have are that they have to be a little more strict because they feel responsible for the safety of your children while they are in their care. Babysitters also worry about your home because we don't know if your children are allowed to use furniture as jungle gyms or bouncy castles. So to pare it down we've broken down our most common worries when we have your children.
Can I just start this blog off with: I am sick to death of pictures of children online doing crafts that turn out perfect, AND everything is soooooo clean! Every craft I plan will inevitably be messy, and so messy that I will wish I hadn't done it. Plus the ones the kids do don't even come close to the picture of the craft they were making! So drop the expectations and remember that this should be all about fun, learning, sharing, and achievement for you and them.
Why do children feel entitled? It is shocking how much children rule the household. Everything is done for them. They can't find their shoes; guess who finds the shoes for them (the first two guesses don't count)? Kids don't like what's for dinner and you make something else. You, housekeepers, babysitters, and or nannies all do everything for children including making sure they are entertained. Gone are the days when children are forced to find activities for themselves. I remember telling my mom that I was bored and she'd respond with: "great, you can go in and do the dishes, or mow the lawn, vacuum the house, clean your room." The list could be pretty extensive so I learned never to tell my mom I was bored and learned to find my own activities.
There are so many horror stories that go the rounds, and posted on You Tube about horrible babysitters. The images of a babysitter or nanny violently shaking a baby or brutally spanking a child are images that parents can't get out of their heads when they leave their children with a babysitter.
Not to be a stinker, but families who need a "babysitter" to come and get there kids off to school and then come back later in the afternoon to pick them up and take them to after school activities are looking for a Nanny not a Babysitter. Why and what's the difference?
A successful way to tell if you have a good babysitter or not is if they follow your expectations. BUT, and this is significant, you have to tell them precisely what your expectations are, AND what you expect of the children too.