We live in an age where parents want to give more to their children than their parents did. This phenomenon has been going on for generations, and now we have children that simply have to ask for something and they get it. We are teaching our children that all they need to do to get what they want is just ask. I want a new nerf gun, I want a new iPad, I want a new Lego set, I want a new doll, I want a car, I want..... Is your response to this; "of course, here you go." OR do you talk to them about the cost of things, teach them to save for things, be patient in order to get some of the things they want especially the more expensive items? Do your children have an allowance? If they do, do they spend it all at once? Do they want to go to the Dollar Store, and spend it even though they want something that is more expensive? Do you give them guidance on their spending, and let them know that they can have the small items from Dollar Store OR they can save their allowance and get the latest Star Wars Lego set?
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Let's take a peek at your day: wake up (really early because you need to get ready and organize yourself before the kids get up), make sure the kid's clothes are ready to go. When you do that you have to go into their cluttered rooms and you make a mental note that you need to get it organized AGAIN. You then go to the kitchen to figure out breakfast and pack lunches/snacks for the kids, when you look in the pantry you find that you are so low on snacks that if you don't go to the store today the kids will have to share the last bag of goldfish tomorrow for lunch AND snacks; you might have more but you can't find them due to the state the pantry is in (note to self organize pantry this weekend along with soccer, gymnastics, taking the kids out for a play date). You wake up the kids with coffee in hand, and they clump to the kitchen, sit down and proceed to complain that you are out of their favorite cereal, and while the kids get all riled up they then spill their orange juice on their school clothes that they put on BEFORE breakfast which you don't like them to do, but choose your battles, you go back to their rooms only to find that drawers are in complete disarray, there are more clothes on the floor then in closets and drawers, you then make another note that you need to sort out clean laundry to dirty laundry because we all know that the clothes on the floor aren't all dirty but, you need to find a clean shirt now, and you're finding that impossible. This is only your morning. Needless to say the rest of the day is just a chain of events that keep you off balance, and not just today but nearly every day.
I have NO idea how parents do it when they are sick. Recently I was sick for 2 weeks from a cold, and the stomach flu. One day I couldn't even lift my head up to answer texts, and operating my business was nearly at a stand still. You can't stop being a mom or a dad! For those who have spouses that can fill in that's got to be super helpful, but for those who don't it has to be a nightmare, not to say it isn't a nightmare for everyone maybe just less of a nightmare.
Okay you need a little break from all the chaos that living in a child’s world gives you on a consistent basis. Should you take a break while they are awake or only while they’re sleeping? What if you need to make a quick phone call to make a doctor’s appointment or arrange a play date? Should children EVER be left alone unless secure in their beds asleep?
As a childcare provider, and an older one at that, I've noticed a trend; parents aren't necessarily parenting anymore. Children have control of the household, and parents are jumping through hoops to make the children happy, and in return; teachers, babysitters, nannies, and other childcare givers are having a more and more difficult time making sure children are safe, not hurting others or each other, teaching, preparing meals etc. Families too are suffering the consequences by having a chaotic home.
As a Babysitter that has worked for decades, nearly 4 decades, I am amazed, and a little bewildered about all of the Autism that is being diagnosed, and the frequency of Occupational Therapy that children are needing. When I'm confused about something I start to research what I don't understand.
Who is the leader of your family? Is it you, your spouse, your parents, your children, or is it you?
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