Look, I'm not an expert and I'm not going to present myself as such. Parents are bombarded every day with "expert" opinion on how to raise their children but can I tell you, in my humble opinion, only you, the parent, is the expert. You know yourself, your children, and family dynamic better than anyone. You know what you want for your children and the kind of parent you want to be. Trial and error, yes error, is what will guide your success and create a parent that your children will love and respect as they get older. I know it is difficult to hear that your children are basically a social experiment but it is true. People, and of course children, are unpredictable and how actions and words are perceived by each individual is unpredictable. For example, I was talking to my niece who happens to be visually impaired the other day and she related a story to me about when she was in high school she got a good score on a science exam and the teacher said to the whole class afterwards: "You should be ashamed of yourselves with your scores. (My nieces name is being changed for privacy) Clara outscored all of you and she is virtually blind." Now this was supposed to be a compliment to Clara but she teared up when she told me because she took it to mean that if a blind girl can do well then you sighted people should have done better. Like because she's blind she should have been too stupid to get high marks on a test. Now that isn't at all what the teacher meant but that is how she took it. image courtesy of Nicole Schwartz book with the same name
Every parent wonders about babysitters, and what they do with their children while they're gone. Parents also need to know what makes a good babysitter for their children. The thing parents think is the most important part about a good babysitter is if the kids like them. HINT: all children will love a babysitter that will let them do whatever they want even though you don't allow certain behaviors or activities and you've directed the babysitter. Keep that in mind and know why your kids love a babysitter; are they a babysitter that lets the kids do whatever they want including watching too much TV?
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Trust is the biggest problem
If you ask any parent anywhere the biggest problem parents have when using a babysitter even when it is family; is trust. Trusting a babysitter is the biggest problem parents have when leaving their children with anyone other than themselves. Even parents have been known to have trust issues when leaving their children with the other spouse. Leaving children with a babysitter related or not is so difficult that a lot of parents choose never to leave their children, and then they get burnt out. You need to face it; you need a break, and figure out how to trust your caregivers.
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One of the most confusing situations for your children and your in home childcare provider is when a parent works from home. Why, well the children don't know who to go to for permission or other questions they may have, the babysitter isn't sure how much you want to be involved with the childcare, and if they are still in charge of the children in a way that they normally are when you aren't home; the whole dynamic changes. When you telecommute or work from home, and have a nanny or childcare professional in your home at the same time you really need to have clear boundaries for you, the children, and the childcare provider.
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We live in an age where parents want to give more to their children than their parents did. This phenomenon has been going on for generations, and now we have children that simply have to ask for something and they get it. We are teaching our children that all they need to do to get what they want is just ask. I want a new nerf gun, I want a new iPad, I want a new Lego set, I want a new doll, I want a car, I want..... Is your response to this; "of course, here you go." OR do you talk to them about the cost of things, teach them to save for things, be patient in order to get some of the things they want especially the more expensive items? Do your children have an allowance? If they do, do they spend it all at once? Do they want to go to the Dollar Store, and spend it even though they want something that is more expensive? Do you give them guidance on their spending, and let them know that they can have the small items from Dollar Store OR they can save their allowance and get the latest Star Wars Lego set?
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I'm sure this isn't original but now that I'm a grown adult, and looking back on some of the things my mom kept from my younger years I wish I had more. This got me thinking about time capsules, and creating family time capsules that families can do together.
Time capsules have been made fun of but we are always keeping family memories so why not streamline our memories, and get the whole family involved? I know if my sister and I had made time capsules we would have saved Christmas cassette tapes we made every year with us singing Christmas Carols, and recording our yearly changes in our lives. We did this tradition from when I was in 6th grade until a freshman in college. My sister was 11 years older then I and she had children in those years. It is such a sad thing to report we no longer have those tapes. Tapes with laughter, creativity, swearing due to mess ups, and sheer honesty and love shared between sisters gone. I remember and cherish those times with my sister, and it is sad we no longer have access to those recordings.
Family traditions are important to build bonds between siblings and parents, and it doesn't need to be time consuming. A time capsule is simply a way to keep memories that are important to you. Once a year you can simply take all of the photos, and refrigerator crafts, write the wonderful things your family did the past year and put it in a time capsule. Of course edit some what you put in it, and put in the pictures, crafts and memories that are important. This should be a family decision not just a one parent or both parents; the children should be involved once they are old enough to participate.
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To quote Winnie the Pooh, "Oh bother" a gentle way of saying I'm frustrated, angered, disappointed, etc. Simply put babysitting is a challenge and much different then parenting and teaching. Babysitters need to make a connection with a child immediately while adhering to family rules, keeping children safe, making snap judgements as to safety and what is really allowed by parents and what is not. There are always details missing, and kids will inevitably tell a babysitter that they can do something when they probably can't.
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Traveling with children when you want to spend time with your significant other without kids can be hard. Now days, however, it really shouldn't be for the savvy and not so savvy traveler. Everywhere you go, especially metropolitan areas there are babysitting services in the area; all you need to do is find them and research them BEFORE you get to your destination. You need to do this because you need to find out the reputation of the agency, and get comfortable with them before you decide you want them to take care of your children.
The other day I was watching crap TV, "Hot Bench" and one of the cases was about a caregiver and one of the judges said: "sorry to say this but you're just a babysitter". I was offended simply put. Why does that term "just a babysitter" make me hot? Well, as a babysitter you are in charge of a life....a LIFE! That doesn't constitute a "just" title. I believe that if you want quality childcare you need to treat and expect babysitters to be professional. As an owner of a babysitting agency I treat all of my babysitting team as professionals, and I expect them to represent my company in a professional way.
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