Look, I'm not an expert and I'm not going to present myself as such. Parents are bombarded every day with "expert" opinion on how to raise their children but can I tell you, in my humble opinion, only you, the parent, is the expert. You know yourself, your children, and family dynamic better than anyone. You know what you want for your children and the kind of parent you want to be. Trial and error, yes error, is what will guide your success and create a parent that your children will love and respect as they get older. I know it is difficult to hear that your children are basically a social experiment but it is true. People, and of course children, are unpredictable and how actions and words are perceived by each individual is unpredictable. For example, I was talking to my niece who happens to be visually impaired the other day and she related a story to me about when she was in high school she got a good score on a science exam and the teacher said to the whole class afterwards: "You should be ashamed of yourselves with your scores. (My nieces name is being changed for privacy) Clara outscored all of you and she is virtually blind." Now this was supposed to be a compliment to Clara but she teared up when she told me because she took it to mean that if a blind girl can do well then you sighted people should have done better. Like because she's blind she should have been too stupid to get high marks on a test. Now that isn't at all what the teacher meant but that is how she took it. image courtesy of Nicole Schwartz book with the same name
Babysitters In a Pinch
Every parent wonders about babysitters, and what they do with their children while they're gone. Parents also need to know what makes a good babysitter for their children. The thing parents think is the most important part about a good babysitter is if the kids like them. HINT: all children will love a babysitter that will let them do whatever they want even though you don't allow certain behaviors or activities and you've directed the babysitter. Keep that in mind and know why your kids love a babysitter; are they a babysitter that lets the kids do whatever they want including watching too much TV?
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As I follow blogs, things to do with children, activities, etc there seems to be a disconnect. The majority of activities are targeted towards women and their children (notice I said majority NOT all). This is 2013, and men are more in the picture then they ever have been in the past.
In my lifetime I've seen so much change in the way money is viewed by children, as well as competition shared within adult and child minds. I don't think the changes have been healthy for our children. I'm actually not sure myself about healthy attitudes about money; but I do think the example of parents in how they treat money, and competition is what will have the most impact on your children.
Once upon a time when I was working retail and selling women's clothing I heard them say more times then I can count that they couldn't possibly wear what they had on even though they liked it because their children would make fun of them and tell them that they couldn't wear it OR their husbands would tell them the same. Should your style be dictated by your children and a man that normally wears jeans and t-shirts? My answer is a simple; no.
These are your fashion consultants? REALLY? I think women and moms need to own their own style, and if it isn't acceptable to your family then boo to them!
I think women need to find security with their own selves. What do your clothes say about you? What happened to the woman who took risks in her style? Did she die when she got married, had children, got older? It probably did; but does your style still reflect you? If you've always been a yoga pant, jean, and t-shirt gal then you will always be that, OR did you start dressing that way because it was easier and more acceptable to people around you?
As an older woman I struggle with my style all of the time. Body changes and age makes it difficult for me to find things I feel good in. In the same token I don't let others: children, men, etc tell me what is good for me to wear. It all depends on how I feel in it. Of course, I have the sense to know that running around in a tight low-cut shirt and tight jeans at 57 is probably not a good look for me (it might be for others but not for me). I, frankly, am not a jeans lover. I wear them because they are readily accessible but today I only have one pair in my drawers. Reaction from others to what I do wear is that think I'm dressing up or my style is unusual; I have more than one item from this website, and no, I'm not promoting it I just want you to see my style. It suits me because I find it comfortable, stylish, and a lot of fun.
So now that you are thinking about it look on the web and find your style. There are lots of quizzes out there, Etsy also has so many fun vendors. I also recommend that you don't listen to the "experts" because they will vary and normally your perception of yourself and body type probably is tainted.
So have fun, and let your style shine.